This article is written by: Noorulain Tahir who is an MS in Clinical Psychology
Life: it happens to all of us. As we grow older we understand the vastness of life and the situations it creates. The problems, the clashes and the need to conform to society.
But reality hits us hard when we realize that we are not perfect. That life is not perfect. And we come crashing down in the face of calamities one after the next.
We all fall on our faces at some point in our lives and have difficulty putting our self together again. Just like Humpty Dumpty. In fact, some of us even come to believe that we can never be the same again.
Perhaps that’s even true. We can’t. We change with time. We mould ourselves into better versions of ourselves. And we rise.
Most of the time though we need a little push, a little help. What do I do when I have fallen flat on my face? Who do I turn to? Where do I go from here?
Here are some of the things that can help.
1. Cry it out.
Let it all out. In any way possible. Don’t hold yourself together for anyone, just do it. Bottling your emotions can cause them to become big and infectious, turning into this big monster that you will have to carry around inside you and wouldn’t know how to expel it. So do what your heart tells you to do .
2. Talk to someone.
A friend, a family member, a therapist. Anyone who can walk you through this calamity, always keeping in mind that this isn’t their battle, it is yours, they are just holding your hand while YOU do it all.
3. Find a hobby.
Something you’re passionate about. Maybe get a pet, start coloring, learn how to cook or stitch. Whatever works for you. Find something that can make you feel like you have achieved something. The point is to find that sense of success that you seem to have lost.
4. Connect to the higher power.
God. He is there when nobody is and faith can make you do things you never knew possible.
5. Maintain a diary.
Write it all down, your journey, your feelings and your emotions. Track them so that you know where you are today and then look back at it.
It doesn’t necessarily mean hitting the gym everyday. It can be a 15 minute walk in the park, it can be yoga. It can even be dancing to the song you loved oh-so-much. Exercise releases endorphins. And endorphins trigger a positive feeling in your body.
In short: connect with yourself, spend time with yourself and be in the present. The past is gone and won’t come back. The future isn’t here yet.Love yourself and you will be able to put yourself back together again!
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